When it comes to organizing weddings it seems like there are about ninety billion decisions to be made and picking a celebrant is just another one of those. There is no right fit for everyone so the idea is to find someone who matches your style, whether it is fun, traditional, modern, quirky or something completely different. So what should you look for when it comes to picking your celebrant? Below are just a few of my ideas ....
Almost like a first date, the first meeting is important as you need to feel comfortable with the celebrant, and the celebrant needs to feel comfortable with you. They should get your vision about how you want your day to be and you should be confident in their ability to deliver that. If all goes according to plan you should fell like you want to go on a second date with them.
They need to have a public presence as well as being excellent communicators as they will be the ones up the front doing most of the talking come the big day. My mum’s just happy that all the money she forked out on speech and drama lessons is being put to good use.
No matter how well you plan, things happen. Bees get stuck in veils, small children vomit, grooms faint, and rings get forgotten (all of which have happened to me). Your celebrant should be able to keep calm and carry on no matter what starts going wrong as well as keeping everyone else calm too. Your celebrant should also be able to act as a peacekeeper when it comes to any particularly tricky situation, so you can stay relaxed and enjoy the day.
Your celebrant should be on the same page when it comes to the feel of the day and how you want the ceremony to feel. They should be able to reflect what getting married is about to you. Also if you’re not down with religion then that doesn’t need to be a part of it either. I always say God doesn’t turn up unless he’s on the guest list.
Your celebrant should be able to work with other people at your wedding to make sure that you have the best experience possible. During my time as a celebrant I have made friends with a lot of other wedding folk so I am incredibly respectful of the work they do, which helps to make your day the best one possible. From ensuring that your ceremony space is set up as best as possible for the light to keep the photographer happy, moving out of shot at during important moments, making sure the buttonholes are pined on perfectly, and that the music is played at exactly the right time, it all helps to make something special.
Your celebrant should love weddings and not just treat it as a job. I know I still get ridiculously excited about best friends becoming husband and wife, husband and husband, or wife and wife. I follow wedding folks blogs, Facebook, Instagram, and probably spend a bit too much time on Pinterest, therefore I have plenty of ideas floating around in my head. Other wedding folk are the same, so please ask us for advice or ideas, nine times out of ten we will have the answers and are only more than happy to help.
So go on an awkward first date with a celebrant, ask questions, tell them about your ideas and dreams, ask them things that you think might be a bit silly and hopefully you will find the right celebrant for you.