During my time as a celebrant I have been lucky enough to officiate some really small and totally amazing weddings, the smallest being me plus the couple and the necessary two witnesses. There is any number of reasons couples keep their wedding small (small to me being anything between two and forty people) but I always find that they are really awesome. These are some of the best parts of having a small guest list. . . .
A Wedding Vs. Marriage
There is something about only sharing it with a small handful of people that allows the couple to strip back all the stuff that they “have to do” or are doing to keep others happy and simply focus on celebrating a marriage rather than a wedding. It generally means that the couple have made a conscious choice to invite people who are closest and most important to them to celebrate with them as they become husband and wife, rather than their second cousin twice removed.
Lots of couples have lived together and have mortgages and/or children and while being married is an important step in their relationship there might be budget constraints that mean a big wedding is out of reach. By choosing to reduce the number of guests it allows them to get married along with the or freeing up money for a brilliant photographer, some seriously good grub and booze, or amazing shoes.
For some couples it boils down to the fact that their priority is to get married rather than to have to organise a big affair for 100+ people. They don’t want to have to deal with the stress and drama that can be involved in organising a big wedding for lots of guests and so simply choose not to.
As a celebrant I love working with couples that decided to have a small and intimate wedding. There is something amazing about that atmosphere that having a small wedding creates. The couple is relaxed, the guests become so much more involved in the whole process rather than just being spectators, and ceremonies become personal. If your thinking about have a small wedding and want some ideas about the ceremony just send me an email and I am only more than happy to help out.